Do you feel confident? How is your self esteem and do you practise self love?
Before I delve into this, let me clear up what I mean with these words. Let me start with Confidence.
Confidence is a measure of faith in one's own abilities. Self esteem is on the other hand our sense of self. So can we be confident but have low self esteem? I believe we can, but it's often very hidden. In fact we can be very confident in some situations but in others we are not.
When it comes to self esteem we often talk about having high or low self-esteem. I would of course encourage you to have high self esteem, because I think you are important to this world and you have something to contribute - we all have!
I believe that it all starts with Self-Esteem which is closely linked with self love. I will get into this a little further on. So, why would we experience low self-esteem and where would this have started?
Well, we all have past experiences and relationships and those impact us in different ways - some positive and some negative. Positive experience can impact our self esteem in positive ways and can contribute to our self esteem but what about all those negative or challenging experiences we have had and negative or not healthy relationships we've had. Well, those can certainly knock our self-esteem on it's head. Those can lower our self-esteem and can also contribute us to forget all those positive things about ourselves.
There can certainly be times when someone would "fake" Confidence. Yes, you heard it right - "fake" confidence. There are some signs that someone is "faking" being self confidence such as their posture. They usually stand straight with a relaxed stance, they feel comfortable in the space around them, they don't like having questions asked, they can appear arrogant and often have a change of heart around matters.
Can you relate to any of this so far?
Our experiences can impact our self esteem for sure, because we may start to say and think negative things about ourselves, we start to focus on the negative and we "forget" what we are good at and we ignore our achievements so far in life, we start to think that other people are better then us, we may start to compare, we also find it hard to accept compliments. We may also feel sad, anxious and ashamed or angry. Well, these things does not exactly boost our self esteem do they? No, quite the opposite - our self esteem start to decline.
Most of us experience the feeling of being down in the "dumps" at some points in our lives and we don't know where to start.....Well, the good think is - You Can Change and Improve Your Self Esteem and that is where it all starts.
Here are some ways that you can get started in improving your self-esteem.....
- Say STOP to that inner voice or inner critic that does not speak kindly to you.
- Write doesn't things that you love about yourself!
- Be grateful about You, who you are, that wonderful You!
- Stop thinking as you have to be perfect!
- Practise self-love - things that you really love doing. You deserve it!
- Make time for Joy! Life is about this. It's about allowing yourself to live with passion
- Affirm what you believe
- Be kind to yourself and others
- Start to prioritise what is really important to you
- Learn to step away when you feel it's needed - this is not about them, it's about You!
- Know what is important to You
- Always challenge your thoughts....ask yourself "is this thought going to be helpful in my life or not" If not, just get rid of it as it does not serve you
- Learn from your past experiences...and know there is no failure..there is only experiences and you can learn from these.
Well, there are many more things you can do but that is a start.....
I truly believe that if we can rediscover ourselves through building up our self esteem. We can make life truly incredible. And by doing this we will absolutely transform. Are you ready to Transform?
I know how past experiences can knock that self-esteem over....it's not a good feeling....but always know........that "warrior" is hidden within you and is ready to come out. I often wished in the past that I had that person "holding" my hand when I was navigating though the process of rediscovering myself. I know it would have made the world of difference.
You don't have to do this alone. Having support can make the world of difference.
Now, back to Self Love. Self-Love comes from a deep feeling of appreciation for yourself and that stems from working on your Self Esteem. It really is and inside Job and only You can do this work. You are the one that can take action that supports your physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-Love really means you have high rewards for your own well-bing and happiness. It means that you take care of your own needs and don't sacrifice your own well-being to please others.
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